"Don't frighten the horses."
"Dear Abby" Pauline Friedman Phillips (1918-2013)
Good old Abigail relied on her uniquely common-sense approach to partially resolve the gay rights issue a long time ago.
All the way back in 1975, her popular advice column "Dear Abby" took an early, enlightened view of human sexuality, whether hetero- or otherwise……
Abby told an inquiring letter writer that she didn't care what consenting adults do in their own bedroom, "just as long as they didn't frighten the horses."
I think "Don't frighten the horses" is a pretty good criterion for many of the things we do in public, too.
For instance, I have it on good authority that horses are terrified by extremely exposed boxer shorts.